Stand Up Against Bullying

Hey y’all – again, I must apologize for the inconsistent posting, but life has me a bit distracted at the moment.  I promise to get back in the kitchen and regular scheduled programming soon!  In the meantime, I’d like to briefly talk about a very important issue – bullying.

A while back, whilst comfortably seated in a nice artsy cinema waiting to see The Artist (phenomenal film by the way if you haven’t seen it yet), I watched the preview for Bully (trailer above) with quiet tears running down my face.  A couple weeks ago we went to see the documentary, and again, cried through most of it.  Yes, anyone who knows me will tell you I’m a bit of a softy (the words “Bridget cried, ’cause Bridget’s a crier” have been uttered by friends on more than one occasion), but I truly found this to be a powerful, heartbreaking film and one I would strongly urge everyone to see.  I think it is as important for adults without kids to see it, as it is for those with, because basically it reminds us to be kind, treat others the way in which we ourselves would like to be treated, and by standing up for what is right and against indecent behavior, we hope to make the world a better, safer place.

Now, there’s been some controversy around the film and giving it a rating.  You’ll notice it is “Not Rated.”  My understanding is that because there is cursing, by kids, in the film, it was going to be rated “R.” But then, kids, pretty much the target audience, even with parental supervision, wouldn’t be able to see it.  So it is up to the independent theater to decide whether to show the film.  Hello, kids swear in the film because kids swear! It’s reality; a crass one, yes, but true.

We’ve all been witness to bullying in one form, and at one time, or another.  I personally distinctly recall being bullied as a kid.  It was scaring and hurtful.  Thankfully I grew up to be a strong, independent person, and to see bullying for what it really is, and that is insecurities and lack of awareness of the bully, but that’s not the case for everyone.  A dear friend, and amazing social worker, made the keen observation that there is a fundamental difference between when we were young, and the environment kids grow up in now.  For us, bullying didn’t follow us home.  We experienced it at school; we experienced it on the bus.  If we were lucky, like I was, we had loving, supportive families we could talk to at home.  Now, with the ever expanding world of social media, there is no escaping bullying – whether it be by phone, text, Facebook etc. – and the effects are devastating.

Please, set an example and treat others with kindness and an open mind. Teach your children to be kind, open minded, to stand up for themselves and for those who are being wronged.  I think deep down we all want the same thing – a healthy, safe world for ourselves and future generations; so be kind, set an example and be the change you want to see in the world.

B. x

Fun Lists and Kindness – an inspiring story

Hello friends!

I’d like to share an inspiring story with you today, in hopes that you’ll join me in implementing a little extra kindness into our lives, and the lives of those around us, to make the world a better place.

Currently, being unemployed, I have nothing but time.  But, I’m quite proud of myself for staying productive every day.  I cook, I read, I write, I research, and all the usual things that go about changing careers.  What I don’t do typically, is turn on the tv during the day.  However, last week sometime I was in need of a break, so I treated myself to a cup of tea and turned on the TV, tuning into the Ellen Degeneres Show.  Now mind you, these breaks are rarely productive, however I was really glad when I heard the story of a California mum of two, Jodi Fisher.

Jodi was diagnosed with a rare form of cancer some seven years ago, and after experiencing the hope of remission, it came back in full force.  Despite everything, Jodi says: “I stay positive, try not to focus on the negative, and be grateful for all the things that I do have.”

Enter the Fun List.  In talking with her daughter, they started to write down experiences they would like to have as a family – this became her “bucket list,” which they renamed the “fun list.” Jodi said that the list “is about spending time together, making good memories, and experiences.”  Touched by the kindness of others while she’d been fighting the dreaded disease, she said that the fun list also acted as a way to give back. On her birthday one year for example, she and her family drove an ice cream truck around her hometown, handing out free ice cream.  How fun and happy inducing is that?!

Jodi’s fun list included (among other things!) traveling with her family, renting a limo simply to go get french fries (awesome!), and meeting President Obama.  The last thing on her list was to attend a taping of the Ellen Show.

In introducing her guest, Ellen said that she, and the show, tries to inspire people to be “happier, positive, and kinder to each other.” It’s what Jodi took the time to say to Ellen that really resonated with me:  ”It makes me feel good that we have people like you in the world that are inspiring and stand up for people, because, you probably know, a lot of people don’t do it.  Like when you say ‘just be kind,’  it’s huge!  And if everyone did just a little bit, I think we’d live in a better place.”

I couldn’t agree more! Treat others the way in which you wish to be treated.  Be kind. Pay it forward. Seriously, if we all make a little extra effort to be considerate and thoughtful, and greet others with a smile, we are bound to transform our world, one act of kindness at a time.

Unfortunately, shortly after appearing on the Ellen Show, Jodi Fisher lost her battle, but she left us with a reminder to be happy, spirited, grateful and kind.

I hope you find a little inspiration in this story.  If you are so inclined, you can watch the original segment here.

As always, live well, eat well, be well!